“Screw the haters man!”
“I’m doing it to prove my haters wrong!”
“My haters will shut up once I do this.”
Have you heard anything close to these sentences?
I would imagine you have. I know I have in person or on social media.
I’ve never understood the whole “Prove the haters wrong!” side of things.
Not saying it’s the wrong way of thinking, I’ve just learned overtime to shift my focus on something else.
Let me explain.
These so called haters that are watching every move you make, they will almost always try to find something that’s wrong with what you did.
Haters are nitpickers.
You cure world hunger.
- The tribe of haters you have will say that you didn’t do it earlier so it’s not much of an accomplishment.
Your business made $500,000 more in revenue than ever before this past year.
- A hater will downplay that incredible accomplishment by making sure you know it wasn’t $600,000 of revenue instead.
You just found the cure to cancer, figured out the solution to homelessness across the United States, AND saved all the stray dogs/cats as well this past year.
- Your new best friend, Mr. Hater, comes up to you and says “You did alright, but since it took you so long to find the cure of cancer, this many people have died in that time.”
I hope you see the trend of what the haters are doing to you.
The thing with haters is that you can’t ever make them shut up. Something will always not be good enough.
So instead, what I do is don’t focus on haters at all. To me, it’s wasted energy and time on someone who will always downplay your success and nitpick you for an eternity.
I focus on proving myself and the people that support me right. The goals I set are for me to say “I did it,” and then my support system will encourage me along the way and after I accomplish the goal.
You can use your hater’s words and antics as motivation but I think it should be more directed toward the people who actually want to see you succeed.
Haters are just there to talk because they’re actually not doing anything productive. So for them, they would rather nitpick someone successful than try to achieve and focus on their own goals.
Here are a few quotes I found about haters:
A hater is a person whose jealousy of another person’s success or achievements makes them verbally nit-pick any flaws no matter how small or just make up flaws in order to somehow try and belittle the successful person.Rai M. Teves
People who hate you because of a mere jealousy over your success hurt themselves in disguise. This is because you carry an image of who they wish they had become. Don’t hate them back because they may also become like you one day and it will mean hurting that image you carry.Israelmore Ayivor
Definitely don’t hate the hater because then it will could back on you in the end.
Use a hater’s words as motivation, energy, whatever you want, but the people that actually matter are the ones that will be there when you need it most.
Don’t forget about those people.
Prove to yourself and your support system that you can achieve great success in your life not to some “hater”.
Thanks and Be Great,