“Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” – Stephen Covey
If this isn’t the truth, I don’t know what is.
Here’s the situation about our daily lives, we’re in a conversation with someone and they might be talking about something.
Are you listening to actually understand the person or waiting for them to be done so you can reply?
There’s a huge difference in the situation.
Listening to understand is not thinking about what you’re going to reply with next or drifting your focus off onto what supper is going to look like for the night.
When we are listening to someone talk, listen to what they’re saying and also to what they’re not saying.
This is where understanding what someone wants or needs is important.
On the other hand, listening to someone and waiting for them to get done so you can get your two cents in isn’t going to get the conversation anywhere.
A conversation isn’t about what you’re waiting to say next, it’s about intently listening.
When in a conversation, take a step back for once and look at whose doing most of the talking.
An example of this for instance is an argument.
Both sides are going back and forth stating their points, but the argument isn’t moving anywhere.
Why isn’t is getting anywhere?
Because both sides are running their mouths too much, when just being quiet for a few seconds and actually listening to what the other person is saying will get the problem fixed.
We have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
Come into a situation looking to talk less, listen intently to what the other person has to say, and then reply.
This will help with a few things.
- You won’t say anything to regret later because of running you’re mouth too much.
- The person talking will feel like they are understood
- When you speak, people will really listen to you!
I know this can be some taboo information here, because listening to others is not worth it to some.
The thing is, every conversation, argument, debate will be easier. It will go smoother and the heat of an argument won’t be there if one side chooses to really listen.
Start using the two ears you have more and see the difference in the conversations you participate in.
Thanks and Be Great,