Take a second to look back at your life and reflect on how much you’ve changed over time.
Remember how you’ve grown over the years?
The favorite superhero shirt doesn’t fit anymore, jeans and shoes are too small after a few years. Getting a new winter coat every couple of years because you just kept on growing.
We obviously are physically not able to fit into the clothes we wore when we were younger. Not only would the clothes not fit in any way, but we’d look pretty weird being a grown teenager/adult trying to fit into kids clothes.
You probably have battle scars from being a kid having fun in trees and messing around with friends. There’s some change in that as well.
You probably changed a lot over the years. You got taller, hit puberty, feet grew three sizes, needed new clothes, or changed your haircut.
A list of how each of changed since our childhoods could go on forever.
Over the time of our life, change is inevitable. Usually though, once you hit the late teen years there really isn’t a lot of change after that which we don’t have control over.
Here’s a question though, since then have you been intentionally changing?
I don’t mean your haircut, style, or getting tattoos. I mean have you seen something you needed to improve on in your life and then decided to make the change to become better?
What am I talking about?
Growth vs Fixed mindset.
What’s the difference?
Growth mindset: Believing that our skills, knowledge, and abilities can be developed through time and effort.
Fixed mindset: Whatever skills you have at the moment, you’re stuck with. There is no chance to become better or learn a new skill because there is no growth available.
Growth vs fixed mindsets are on completely different sides of the spectrum. When talking to a stranger, within the first minute or so you can tell what mindset they have. It’s something that might as well be written on our foreheads.
To get a better sense of what the differences are, here’s a quick overview of both.
Someone with a growth mindset tends to have a desire to learn more and have tendencies of:
- Embracing challenges
- Persist in the face of setbacks
- See effort as the path to mastery
- Learn from criticism
- Find lessons and inspiration in the success of others
All of these tendencies lead right into someone reaching incredible levels of achievement and reaching their full potential.
On the other side, someone with a fixed mindset has some staticity in terms of intelligence which leads to a desire of looking smart and may have tendencies that include:
- Avoiding challenges
- Giving up easily
- See effort as fruitless or worse
- Ignore useful negative feedback
- Feel threatened by the success of others.
Someone with a fixed mindset may plateau early and not achieve their full potential.
Here’s a photo to put the difference of mindsets into perspective.
It hurts seeing people with a fixed mindset knowing they think they’re in a cage of their skills and abilities.
We’ve all been changing since the day we were born, why shouldn’t we be changing now? We all need to be evolving and continuing to get better on a continual basis.
Some days a manager, parent, or teacher might give you some criticism for something you did wrong.
There’s an opportunity to grow and become better from someone who is wiser and probably has been in the same situation before.
In a situation like this, it may seem they’re mad at you for what happened, which they possibly might be. In the end, these people care about you and are just trying to help.
I don’t know about anyone else, but any free help I can get from someone who knows what they’re doing and interested in helping me is worth their weight in gold.
Where would we be if we stopped changing after we turned eighteen?
I understand change is hard and can be difficult at times. It will be worth it though when you become your full potential.
Anything worth having won’t be easy.
So to end this post, a fixed mindset is detrimental to the trajectory of your life. A fixed mindset will kill all hope towards improving our lives.
Essentially a fixed mindset keeps you in a cage. It’s a completely fake cage an individual puts on themselves, but it can be there.
A growth mindset can take time to develop and seeing the big picture when you’re in trouble for something or learning a new topic is hard at times.
The one thing to remember about a growth mindset is to just keep an open mind. Keep an open mind about new topics, how to do things or the perspective behind different things.
Our world is huge and there are so many different ways to accomplish tasks and perspectives on topics. Keeping an open mind to hearing someone say their side so you can improve is just one part of having a growth mindset.
But, it’s an essential part.
Here’s a quote to end this post with,
“We find comfort among those who agree with us and growth among those who don’t.” — Frank A. Clark
Look for growth in all areas of life and a positive difference will be made.
Thanks and Be Great,